Whats Done Is Done | Wiping Up Snot

Wondering where I’ve been? I’ll tell you. I’ve been nursing my poor husband back to health. (Okay and house hunting.)

Cleatus had a vasectomy on Wednesday. A freaking VAS people.

A loooooong time ago, back when I first heard about people gettin’ neutered I swore that I would never and my husband would never do that. What if you change your mind? Why not just use birth control?

I can understand now why people choose this route, however it is still very scary to me.

Cleatus does not want more kids and he is so adamant about it and I’m quite sure he is never going to change his mind. I, however, am not sure that I don’t want more kids. I mean, I DON’T want more kids RIGHT NOW. But in two years? Five years? Hell, I’m only twenty-five. What about in ten years?

This vasectomy decision was a very hard one for me. I have two children, a boy and a girl. Our family is perfect the way it is. Still, a vasectomy seems so permanent to me. Yes, I know it can be reversed, but come on. He had them sliced open once, I doubt he’d do it again. I don’t expect to want more children, nor do I think it would be fair of me to demand them of Cleatus if he doesn’t want more. He only wanted to have one child to begin with, but we compromised and we have two. (This is not to say he isn’t happy that we had Cindy-Lu. She’s his baby girl. He’s happy.)

Either way, whats done is done and thats what marriage is all about right? Compromise (not sterilization, you dorks)! I have my two kids and Cleatus has his wounded war heroes.

Marriage is tough.

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That’s a toughie. We recently found out we’re expecting #2 and that was all we were planning to have but I don’t feel like this is definitely my last pregnancy.

I’m always nervous about permanent procedures, too. I keep thinking it would really make a ton of sense to get my tubes tied while I’m having the c-section anyway–but I don’t like final decisions on these kinds of things. Reversing is expensive and often doesn’t work…but on the other hand, I keep getting knocked up. Endless dilemma.

The decision freaked us out as well. But I cannot have more kids, number three would probably do me in. We both decided it would be best to get a vasectomy. We both would like more, but my body is apparently not made to have babies. I know what you mean about the permanence.

Karly, you just knocked me off my feet! Wow. A vasectomy. Something as permanent as that would freak me out, too.

On the other hand, think of all the awesome spontaneous sex you can have now.

I’m sure it was a hard decision for you, but at least now you can go off birth control pills and just enjoy having sex!

Make sure he goes in for his followup visit. And if he feels any tingling or burning down the road, to go in and have it checked again. My brother in law was born two years after my father in law’s vasectomy, and another friends of mine discovered he needed to have it done again when he went back for a checkup!

I’d like to get my tubes tied, but Gavin isn’t ready to resign himself to stopping at 2 kids (he wants more)… Not an easy decision.

Eventually I’d like to my husband to have a vasectomy but he says he’ll never do it. We’ll see…

If you’re really done having kids I think it’s the best option!

Thanks for visiting my blog the other day…

Hope he didn’t play it up too much. Hubby had one done a couple years ago and was asking for a bj the very next day. I think their egos are wounded more than anything else

[...] of you may remember that Cleatus got a vasectomy a while back. And that right after his vasectomy I hoped thought that I might be pregnant. [...]

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