Oh my achin’ uterus…

September 26, 2007 | Filed in: Crazy Kids

My baby is now officially a preschooler. One of us cried for less than a minute. The other one cried a lot longer. I’ll let you figure out which one was the bigger baby.

When I agreed that Cleatus should get a vasectomy I knew that we wouldn’t be having anymore children. I knew that he was 100% sure that he was done. And I also knew that it would be unfair of me to ask for more children when I had my boy and my girl. I knew that he would never change his mind. And I knew that I didn’t want another child RIGHT THEN, but I also knew that I would still be ecstatic if I happened to get pregnant.

I don’t regret our decision to get a vasectomy, but some days, like today, if I think about it to much I start to panic and worry that we’ve made a mistake. My baby is IN SCHOOL. She is no longer a baby…she is a PRE-SCHOOLER.

One of these days she is going to lose those fat little cheeks and those chunky thighs and that adoring love of her green blanky and blue pillow. One day she will stop asking me "Love Cindy-Lu?" and she’ll stop saying "pretty pretty pretty PLEASE!" when she asks for candy. One of these days she is going stop guarding the door when it is time for her daddy to go to work. She’ll stop crying because he is driving off in "Cindy-Lu’s van" and she won’t demand one more hug, HUG DADDY!, every time he puts his shoes on. One of these days she is going to grow up.

And today I think I’ll cry about that.

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Let me guess…you are the one who cried all day? I totally understand. I am already crying about my daughter starting school and she’s only 18 months old. And my husband is also planning a vasectomy after our boy is born in just over a month. One boy and one girl is the perfect family. Try not to regret the vasectomy. Three kids is hard to manage these days. But I hear ya, the growing up stuff is sad, sad, sad.

Girl, I can totally empathize! And my baby isn’t even a preschooler yet! He’s only 15 months old. But my uterus is all achy all the time, too.

She is the cutest little thing. Oh, those eyes!

I understand how you’re feeling. It’s okay to cry about it. You can always come to my place where the pregnancy hormones are abundant and there is a 93% chance, at any time of the day, that I am crying. I’ll cry with you.

Look at those eyes!!

Well, there’s always the fun alternative of having oops! another baby two years from now and having Cleatus think you cheated on him and refuse to believe that his vasectomy grew back together. That happened to some people I know. Then he could get snipped AGAIN! And wouldn’t that be fun!

But then you’d have another darling fat-cheeked baby.

Well, and probably a resentful Cleatus. I guess you can’t have it all.

what a cutie she is! she’ll be breaking little preschool boys’ hearts in no time! yeah, i know… that’s not helping, is it?

I know exactly how you feel I thought I was the only one who cried with a mixture of pride & sadness over every new stage & event. It feels like losing your baby, piece by piece he’s growing up & away from you & I hate it just blooming hate it.

Oh, my dear… I’m STILL crying over each of my girlies– the one who went into Grade 6 this year, AND the one who started Grade 1 (she’s gone from me ALL DAY NOW… *SOB*), AND the one who’s in nursery three mornings a week.

I, personally, think motherhood is just one gigantic blub-fest.

xo CGF

ps. And your uterus NEVER stops achin’, whether you’ve got two kids or twenty-two…. Mind you, if you had twenty-two, there’d be a whole lot of OTHER things achin’ (and droppin’ right off your body), too…

Growing up is the worst! Why does the time have to go by so fast? I am right there with you on the crying. Who knew that motherhood would be full of so many tears?

Keep crying. It may seem silly, but preschool is so worthy of your tears, as are all the steps that follow.

As for the Big V, when would you ever have enough children? I mean, somebody would always be the last to go to preschool…. Maybe you could hold them back
And also about the Big V, shortly after my husband got his, my doc put me on birth control to correct “hormonal chaos.” (Which I’m still having and guess I always will.) Husband did not find this funny after all that went with the Big V.

WAAAAHH! I was holding it together with my baby going to school until you wrote this.

On the good side, my baby was born AFTER vasectomy. Seems that procedure fails a lot! I have eight friends that have babies AFTER vasectomy. Just saying. Not SO Permanent.

In my husband’s case, he had the procedure done once more time with feeling. Three kids is good. If it failed again, I might just…I dunno, but it would be bad. Three tipped my scale. I was so happy to have our accident, but three hit me hard. Not enough hands.

By the way, I gave you an award. Check it out:

http://unitedstatesofmotherhood.blogspot.com/2007/09/yo-ungrateful-bi-otch.html

i think i’d die a little bit inside when Isabella goes to school. but i’m hoping my friends will keep having babies so i can squish them and smell them!

I know. I really do.

That Cindy-Lu is a doll!

My baby went off to kindergarten this year. Number 3 of 3 boys. I had the SAME feelings, we even tossed around the idea of adoption for about 5 minutes until I realized how much free time I was going to have to do, like, adult things and maybe even get a j-o-b, or uh, something. I’ve never felt “done” making babies but I’m learning to relish my time alone now.
PS-Your daughter is making my decision even harder!! She’s adorable and those eyes!! Waaaaaa, I want a girl now!!!!!!!!!!

LOVE the pig tails !! She is a doll !!

My son is 11 & in the sixth grade. I always get teary-eyed the first day of school.

You will get over it mate…. It took me 6 to finally realise they really are not that much fun! And I still ended up with two more…. you do NOT WANT 8 …..

I totally sympathize.

We had 3 boys and then finally a girl so we decided we were definitely done. My hubby had a vasectomy when our daughter was a yr. old.

I don’t think it was until we had a grandchild (3 yrs. ago) that I truly got over the baby lust. I honestly think that’s why I did daycare for so long and why I still do it. I just L O V E babies!

Your little girl is so adorable~

I feel your pain and I think I will cry with you! My baby turns TEN on the third. TEN! Not to mention my one year old nephew is like having a rerun of my son running around, they are that much alike, my sister just found out she is pregnant again and my husbands cousin just had twins, one of each. The combination of all the babies and Joe turning ten makes me want to go root my uterus out of whichever trash can the doctor threw it in.

Awww, I KNOW! Mine started kindergarten this year…it’s way more traumatic for the moms!

I say this with complete and total honesty…that is one of, if not the, most beautiful little girl I have ever seen. (except for mine that it).

Oh, I totally know what you mean.

If we don’t talk about it, it won’t happen. They’ll just be babies forever.

Oh, those milestones are so tough! You’ll always remember these sweet times. And you’ll remind her of these at the most opportune moments: like when her boyfriends come over.

I feel your pain, sweetie. I really do.

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